Have you ever wondered why sometimes children go a stray as they grow up? We have seen children change their behaviour as they go through different stages of life.
Sometimes I wonder why some parents complain about the behaviour of their children when they have already grown up.
As a parent, if you honestly played your role when the child was growing, then you don’t have to regret. When these children grow, they also have choices to make. They might decide to go contrary to your will or adhere to your advice.
If you failed to give them the right direction, then you have yourself to blame. It is at the foundation that the house stand. If the foundation is weak, it may affect the rest of the building no matter how beautiful it might be.
So parents, let us play our role as much as we can. The rest we leave to God.
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Have you ever insulted your child? Has your child suffered from name calling? Have you ever thought how this could cause a great mental harm to your child? Verbal abuse should not be taken lightly. This happens more with mothers than fathers. I believe after reading the article below , you will never do it again! You can as well watch the video below.
Daisy was a grade three child. She was a quiet girl who did her work silently. She wasn’t social and most of the time she spent all alone. Let me say that she wasn’t gifted in class work. She lived with her mother who didn’t understand her at all. Most of the time is when she scolded her calling her names like cow, dog, donkey, foolish and stupid.
There was this one name she liked calling her mostly, “Ng’ombe” meaning cow. Anytime she did something wrong, she would shout at her,” Ng’ombe!”
One day , while at school, they were asked to do a quiz which she got nothing.The teacher was so annoyed as she thought the quiz was easy for everyone in class. So she shouted at her,” Kwa nini unafanya kama ng’ombe? ” meaning, ” Why are you behaving like a cow?”
Daisy walked to her desk feeling devastated. She was afraid of becoming the laughing stock of the class. Having reached where she usually sat, she covered her face using her sweater and cried bitterly.
It was during the creative lesson one afternoon when the teacher issued the learners with plain papers. Then she told them, ” On this paper, draw anything you may think of. Make your picture as attractive as you can.”
Every learner was excited to have the lesson. They enjoyed the creative writing and after some time the teacher collected the papers for analysis.
When she was going through the work, she came across this one paper. On it, a cow with a human head was drawn! To her amazement, the paper belonged to Daisy. Before the class could leave for break, she requested Daisy to be left behind.
” Why did you draw such an animal? I haven’t seen such a creature!” she asked Daisy. Daisy looked at her and started crying. It took a long time before the teacher could convince her to talk. Finally, she was ready to let it out.
” My mother always calls me a cow anytime I do a mistake. I have never known I am one until you asked me why I was behaving like one! When you asked as to draw, I tried to imagine how I looked like in the eyes of my mother and that’s what I came out with.” she narrated.
The teacher was very sorry and remorseful. She apologized to Daisy and after some talk with her, she decided to invite the mother to come to school where they talked at length about the issue. They swallowed their pride by apologizing to Daisy and promised that it wouldn’t happen again.
This was the beginning of a new Daisy! Everything seemed to change beyond expectations. Her performance improved as her self esteem too. She became the peer leader in upper classes and participated in most of the school activities. What a good ending!
From the above we can all see what insults and verbal abuse can do to our children. Let’s all refrain from calling our children names, insulting and scolding unnecessarily. This may cause mental challenges in our children leaving them stressed. As we discipline and make them responsible , it is always good to use kind words. We should avoid damaging their self esteem as this may bring a great harm to their lives.
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Children can help out around the house in many different ways. For example, they can simply go outside to play when the grown-ups need to do big jobs in the house. Some families expect older children to help with younger children – amusing them, distracting them, protecting them and so on.
Here are some ideas for chores for children of different ages.
Toddlers (2-3 years)
Pick up toys and books.
Put clothes on clothes hooks.
Set placemats on the dinner table.
Preschoolers (4-5 years)
Set the table for meals.
Help with preparing meals, under supervision.
Help put clean clothes into piles for each family member, ready to fold.
Help with grocery shopping and putting away groceries.
Hand you wet clothes to be hung out to dry.
School-age children (6-8 years)
Water the garden and indoor plants.
Clean the bathroom sink, wipe down kitchen benches, mop floors or take out rubbish.
Help hang out clothes and fold washing.
Put away crockery and cutlery.
Help with choosing meals and shopping.
Help with meal preparation and serving, under supervision.
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Doing chores helps children learn about what they need to do to care for themselves, a home and a family. They learn skills they can use in their adult lives, like preparing meals, cleaning, organising and keeping a garden.
Being involved in chores also gives children experience of relationship skills like communicating clearly, negotiating, cooperating and working as a team.
When children contribute to family life, it helps them feel competent and responsible. Even if they don’t enjoy the chore, when they keep going they get the feeling of satisfaction that comes with finishing a task.
And sharing housework can also help families work better and reduce family stress. When children help out, chores get done sooner, and parents have less to do. This frees up time for the family to spend doing fun things together.
How to involve the child
The secret for involving children in household chores is asking for contributions that you value and that suit your children’s ages and abilities. A chore that’s too hard for a child can be frustrating – or even dangerous – and one that’s too easy might be boring.
Even a young child can start to help out if you choose activities that are right for his age. You can start with simple jobs like looking after his own toys. Chores like this send the message to your child that his contribution is important.
It’s also important to think about chores or tasks that get your child involved in caring for the family as a whole. A simple one is getting your child to help with setting or clearing the table. Jobs like these are likely to give your child a sense of responsibility and participation.
If your child is old enough, you can have a family discussion about chores. This can reinforce the idea that the whole family contributes to how the household runs. Children over six years old can help decide which chores they’d prefer.
You can motivate your child to get involved in chores by:
doing the chore together until your child is ready to do it on her own
being clear about what each person’s chores are for each day or week – write them down so they’re easy to remember
talking about why it’s great that a particular job has been done
showing an interest in how your child has done the job.
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The visitors left and Liznet had a lot to tell her mother about her future world. She narrated her story:
In this world, there are so many problems. Children are being kidnapped day in day out. I see you watching news on television and most of the time, what make news is bad things like violence, robbery, war, floods, diseases and more. This is what people find interesting. I am fed up with this kind of life where everyone is scrambling for his or her wellbeing. I would like to have peace, go far away where nobody can get me. And I found all what I needed from a bird as I watched a flock soaring peacefully in the sky. No hatred, no hustle, no panic and no war. That’s why I decided to be a bird in the next life!
Her mother looked at her with disbelief. She wondered why her five-year- old girl would be so optimistic on her future life. She had a task ahead…..catch the next part and hear what the mother told her daughter Liznet…. kindly, let me know your take on this through comments….if you come across this, kindly follow... A lot is in store… don’t miss!..Read also Life wasn’t easy at the village! (Part 2)- and enjoy my experience in the country side. Sometimes things becomes tough. Read How I made it (epi 2) – to see more.
Most of the learners in some of the developing countries are not gaining from digital migration that is taking place in most part of the world. Like in kenya, children from vulnerable backgrounds cannot afford purchasing smart gadgets leave alone paying for the internet. Moreover, most of the teachers who are supposed to teach the learners using the technology skills are also not well equipped.I am requesting all well wishers to join hands to assist this children and the teachers. The donations received will be used to buy necessary equipment and for teachers facilitation programs.
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Today marks the third Sunday of June which most part of the world recognize and celebrate fathers. I felt that I have to write this few lines on the fathers who leave the family responsibilities to the mothers and disappear from the seen just to come back when children are all grown. They misuse their youthful life only to return home when they have nothing to offer. Have a watch at this video. It is a special dedication to all Fathers.
Others are just there in the house leaving all responsibilities to the mothers. They can’t provide even a pencil to the school going child. They don’t want to work. It’s the duty of the mother to raise children and be the bread winner at the same time. Such fathers should understand that the children are watching and soon they will be grown-ups.
Fathers…remember you are the head of the family
Some are absent fathers only seen when there is curfew directives. Sometimes children see them after a fortnight or so, yet they live in the same house and when they appear, they want to be felt by making sure everyone responds when the cough. They don’t find it important to engage in raising children and they assume the task should be left to mothers only.
We have seen some fathers who don’t bother whether the child is sick or not, school fees is paid or not, took breakfast or not and some left school meetings as a mother- duty – only. They have never attended any school meetings. Not because they are busy, but that is meant for mothers as they say.
When these children grow up, they will recognize their mother more. This is where complains start coming up. Some accuse mothers that they have poisoned the children so much that they never recognize nor respect their father.
Respect is earned…if you need it, then work for it!
I have this message to all Fathers, you might think that participating in bringing up children is not necessary, but you will not escape from the repercussions. You will need these children at your old age, be part of their lives. They will also recognize you as a caring father. Sometimes what they only need is your wise words!
Fathers, money is not everything, your presence matters too.
Be there for your children, whether you have money or not, your love to them means a lot!…and when you grow old, they will not need any introduction to address you. Let us all take part fully in raising our children. The task is not as easy as it may look to be.
Fathers… don’t just father the child…be a Dad too!
Just recently, an NGO gave alarming data on numbers of teenage girls expecting to give birth soon. According to Citizen TV, this young girl gave birth to triplets. Guess who is responsible…a 13 year old boy..where are we heading to..what does law say about such incidents…
Many times we tend to ignore the presence of children when we are discussing our parents-related issues. In the modern community, parents talk some sensitive issues and they assume that children are understanding nothing or they are not interested.
As much as we are eager to teach our children morals and values, they also learn a lot from what they see us parents doing. Children learn much through observation and parents should mind their behaviour when addressing to some issues especially if the children are with them. Let’s look at this scenario:
John was driving home accompanied by his 4year old child. While he was driving, his boy was playing a game using his phone. There was high traffic and everyone was struggling to get home before dark. As every market has a mad man, some drivers find it difficult to practise patience, so one driver drove past John using the wrong side of the road. He almost hit John’s car as he squeezed his car to find way out. When John so that, he shouted in anger, ” Stupid you mad man!” At all this time, his boy was busy playing with his father’s phone. After driving for a half an hour, another driver pulled out of the traffic trying to overlap. John was busy setting his radio and so he did not notice it. It wasn’t long before he was interrupted by his boy. ” Dad Dad! Look at that stupid mad man what he is doing over there.!” John was surprised not to say a word. He had not realized that he had become a perfect teacher to his boy until he heard it. He wondered what to tell the boy now that those were the same words he had used previously. He pretended to be busy but the son made sure that the father got the message. After realizing that the boy could not stop insisting, he said, “Leave him alone. Just continue with your game.” John continued with his journey but disturbed. He had realized that was not the best parent to emulate. He had Learnt his lesson and he decided to make a change in his character for the sake of his son.
a) If it were you what would you have done? b) What type of character is your child getting from you?
So next time you act abnormally, take precaution. Your child may make the best duplicate out of you. Parents let’s try to be role models to our children. This will make it easier for us to guide their behaviour.
It is sad that children have been left to go on with their daily activities. They are relating and playing as if covid 19 is a fiction. Schools were closed to keep children safe but it is like this is not working.
When parents go for job, these children are left all alone and they are free to meet with their friends without minding the impact of the pandemic. Most of them are seen not bothering to take the precautions needed. They never use masks nor keep social distance.
My question is…are these children safe? Is keeping them out of school protecting them from being victims?
It has been a long time since schools were indefinitely closed due to Covid 19.
It was a surprise to many as this caught them unaware. How they had to swallow the bitter pill as there was no other option to save the children from the pandemic.
Since then, it has not been easy to stay with children for such a long time bearing in mind that some live in high populated areas.Some of the parents have said it openly why it has been hard to stay with their children for such a long time and it is their prayer this will come to an end soon.
This are some of the reasons they gave:
Children cannot learn by themselves without the help of the teacher. They don’t take parents seriously when they give the assignments . Some of the parents are not aware on what is taught in school. Others know little about the syllabus.
Controlling children has not been easy, This is because they are staying in small rooms and keeping children congested in a room for a whole day is not easy to them.They better go outside where they would have a wider space for their activities.
Some parents are still going to their working places, hence children are left unattended. They(the children)may take advantage of this and engage themselves with immoral behaviours which parent could not advocate for if they were around.
Some children are still too young to understand why they are being told that it is not right to play with their peers.Keeping them in the house all day is not that simple.
Then there are the teenagers who most of the time they feel they are always right. This brings conflict between them and the parents.Sometimes they take advantage of the absence of the parent to do immoral things which could land them in danger.The parents have to deep more in their pockets for the unexpected budget.
It is a prayer to every parent that things will be back to normal soonest. As parents should also know this.
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