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When and how to talk to teenagers on relationships- Ciscasquapro

Romantic relationships are a major developmental milestone. They come with all the other changes going on during adolescence – physical, social and emotional. And they’re linked to your child’s growing interest in body image and looks, independence and privacy. The idea that your child might have these kinds of feelings can sometimes be a bit confronting for you. But these feelings are leading your child towards a deeper capacity to care, share and develop intimate relationships.

When teenage relationships start

There isn’t a ‘right age’ to start having relationships – every child is different, and every family will feel differently about this issue. But here are some averages:

  • From 9-11 years, your child might start to show more independence from your family and more interest in friends.
  • From 10-14 years, your child might want to spend more time in mixed gender groups, which might eventually end up in a romantic relationship.
  • From 15-19 years, romantic relationships can become central to social life. Friendships might become deeper and more stable.

Many teenagers spend a lot of time thinking and talking about being in a relationship. In these years, teenage relationships might last only a few weeks or months. It’s also normal for children to have no interest in romantic relationships until their late teens. Some choose to focus on schoolwork, sport or other interests.

Early teenage relationships

Younger teenagers usually hang out together in groups. If the person your child is interested in is older or younger, it could be worth mentioning that people of different ages might want different things from relationships.The most influential role models for teenagers are the grown-ups . Just talking about both men and women respectfully lets your child know you think everyone is equal and valuable.

Talking about teenage relationships with your child

Your family plays a big part in the way your child thinks about teenage relationships.

When you encourage conversations about feelings, friendships and family relationships, it can help your child feel confident to talk about teenage relationships in general. If your child knows what respectful relationships look like in general, she can relate this directly to romantic relationships.

These conversations might mean that your child will feel more comfortable sharing his feelings with you as he starts to get romantically interested in others. And the conversations can also bring up other important topics, like treating other people kindly, breaking up kindly and respecting other people’s boundaries.

Having conversations with your child about sex and relationships from a young age might mean your child feels more comfortable to ask you questions as she moves into adolescence.

In some ways, talking about romantic and/or sexual teenage relationships is like talking about friendships or going to a party. Depending on your values and family rules, you and your child might need to discuss behaviour and ground rules, and consequences for breaking the rules. For example, you might talk about how much time your child spends with his girlfriend or boyfriend versus how much time he spends studying, or whether it’s OK for his girlfriend or boyfriend to stay over.

You might also want to agree on some strategies for what your child should do if she feels unsafe or threatened.

Young people might also talk to their friends, which is healthy and normal. They still need your back-up, though, so keeping the lines of communication open is important.

Sex and teenage relationships

If your child is in a relationship, it can bring up questions about sex and intimacy.

Not all teenage relationships include sex, but most teenagers will experiment with sexual behaviour at some stage. This is why your child need information on sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

This could also be your chance to talk together about dealing with unwanted sexual and peer pressure. If you keep the lines of communication open and let your child know that you’re there to listen, he’ll be more likely to come to you with questions and concerns.

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A wake up call to the young people

I was really moved by the story of this young man by the name Walter. He used to walk miles and miles at the age of 20 years to work. He didn’t lose hope. The struggle they went through with his mother kept him more determined day by day. One day things really changed. Listen to this video from one of the TV shows courtesy of #STEVETVSHOW….it is amazing..

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Why children should do household chores

Children can learn a lot from doing household chores. Here is a video on children and house chores…for more of such…just subscribe..

Doing chores helps children learn about what they need to do to care for themselves, a home and a family. They learn skills they can use in their adult lives, like preparing meals, cleaning, organising and keeping a garden.

Being involved in chores also gives children experience of relationship skills like communicating clearly, negotiating, cooperating and working as a team.

When children contribute to family life, it helps them feel competent and responsible. Even if they don’t enjoy the chore, when they keep going they get the feeling of satisfaction that comes with finishing a task.

And sharing housework can also help families work better and reduce family stress. When children help out, chores get done sooner, and parents have less to do. This frees up time for the family to spend doing fun things together.

How to involve the child

The secret for involving children in household chores is asking for contributions that you value and that suit your children’s ages and abilities. A chore that’s too hard for a child can be frustrating – or even dangerous – and one that’s too easy might be boring.

Even a young child can start to help out if you choose activities that are right for his age. You can start with simple jobs like looking after his own toys. Chores like this send the message to your child that his contribution is important.

It’s also important to think about chores or tasks that get your child involved in caring for the family as a whole. A simple one is getting your child to help with setting or clearing the table. Jobs like these are likely to give your child a sense of responsibility and participation.

If your child is old enough, you can have a family discussion about chores. This can reinforce the idea that the whole family contributes to how the household runs. Children over six years old can help decide which chores they’d prefer.

You can motivate your child to get involved in chores by:

  • doing the chore together until your child is ready to do it on her own
  • being clear about what each person’s chores are for each day or week – write them down so they’re easy to remember
  • talking about why it’s great that a particular job has been done
  • showing an interest in how your child has done the job.

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Son kills four family members in kenya

The shocking news of a 22 year man kill father, mother, brother and a cousin using a knife had left many with unanswered questions.

At that fateful night, the son started by killing a worker who was within the compound. This made it easy to attack other members without interruption.

How he killed all these people is still a puzzle. What could have caused such great hatred that triggered him to eliminate almost entire family?

Only her two sisters who had reported back to school escaped the horrifying ordeal.

Could he be on hard substances? It is a sad story to tell. May be this son was stressed but nobody noticed or mentally disturbed. For now, it is hard to take sides.

Let’s be keen to notice slightest behavioral changes in our children. We may prevent the worst from happening.

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Some of the best posts you missed

It is not obvious that the very interesting, educative, informative and inspiring post finds you online. So I have thought it wise to update you with my latest posts if you ever missed them.

Get the link to the posts…. I will appreciate your like, follow, share and constructive criticism. I will not stuff your email with unnecessary information.

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A woman confession -Ciscasquapro

You may not believe it, but he caught me red handed!

I couldn’t believe my eyes when I saw him. I stood speechless not knowing what to do next. It was true that he arrived just in the nick of time.

What will I tell him? How will I explain it? A lot of rhetorical questions crisscrossed my mind. Will he ever trust me again?

He had been saying it time and again, but I always denied. Now I had to plead with him for forgiveness.

Have you ever found yourself in such a situation? I would love to hear your story too as you leave a comment. You need to read more articles? Get them here

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Why use WordPress for your website!

I have loved the way they respond to our queries. Their customer service is super! Next time you want to start a website, with wordpress you won’t go wrong. Don’t hesitate, set your site using wordpress. By using the given link you can access wordpress site and you will never regret.

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Arlington Cemetery in U.S

Can somebody help me understand why the president must visit the cemetery immediately after inauguration? Should it be there are some beliefs connected to this visit in relation to US leadership? Why is it a priority?

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Joe Biden inauguration 2021

I have been following the america president inauguration for the former presidents. To my opinion, this one was amazingly different!.

I noted that Joe Biden inauguration was full of scripture quotes. Crowned by the first ever female vice president. Ending with a powerful benediction was excellent. What a good start!

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How to change your boring Mondays

Hi my people, I am happy to announce that my Mondays have really changed. All this is due to change of mindset. In my previous post on terrible things happening on Mondays, I was a big victim of terrible Mondays until I realized the secret.

So, how did I manage it? Simple, I tried by waking up early enough. This has given me enough time to finish all my morning chores and this keeps me fit before I set out for job.

It’s amazing how my Mondays have changed.

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The best website host! WordPress

I have loved the way they respond to our queries. Set your site using wordpress. Use the given link and you will never regret.

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How to rock your day in style

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The pillar of education in life

Kindly visit my education page to see more articles on education. Don’t forget to like and share. Your constructive comment will be highly appreciated and more so to- a follow me- action

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A ‘human’ cat!

I have stayed with cats but this one amazed me. The things it does leaves one with questions without answers

shocking

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Kenyan teachers among the first groups to have Covid-19 Vaccine

Being said that the teachers and health workers will be among the first to be given the coronavirus vaccine, it has attracted mixed reaction from different people. Though voluntary, this haven’t changed other people’s thought on it causing more complications on ones health, such as mental health while some see it as the best way to prevent ourselves from the deadly virus.

I would love to get your view on this? What do you think? Let’s chat as you leave a comment. More insights, visit my blog

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Use ginger, garlic,tumeric and lemon to treat cold and flu

Ginger, garlic, tumeric and lemon are easily available in our markets. I didn’t know how these products were powerful until the time I used them.

We may have ignored their importance but they stand to offer great help to our bodies. I am one of those people who used to hate the garlic smell not to mention the tumeric taste.

Last week, I was suffering from cold and flu. At first, I was shocked as this is one of the covid 19 symptoms. You can imagine how scared I was. I decided to take it easy and tried to manage it by myself and then I would visit the doctor later if it didn’t work. I went fetching for the products in the nearby market.

I then prepared them and mixing everything except lemon which I added after the boiling was done. Before I could allow the mixture to cool down, I steamed myself with the hot vapour. After some minutes, I sieved the mixture and added some honey to taste.

After three days, I was free from the cold and flu! I couldn’t believe it. I felt so relieved and happy. My medicine was just a stone throw and at the same time I spent less for my treatment.

By writing this, I don’t advocate for not visiting the doctor when you feel unwell, but you can as well give it a shot.

Have you ever experienced such? Will be happy to hear how you managed it without visiting the doctor. Would you like to read other stories? Be free to get them here.

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Bobi Wine Wins Uganda elections?

Do you think the Uganda election is fair and transparent? At the moment, Yoweli Museveni is leading by more than a half of counted votes. Bobi Wine has strongly disagreed with the outcome so far. It is said that his house has already been engulfed by the Uganda army. Reason? Not yet known.

Do you think Museveni win is genuine and Bobi Wine should admit the defeat?

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It isn’t over – Ciscasquapro

At every given time, it reaches a time when you have tried to find success in your life but no matter how much you try, it always turn to be too difficult to scale the desired height.

There is good news for you!

Always keep going when you feel you have reached a point between a rock and hard stone.

Try to find your way through thick and thin. Have self motivation when you feel very low.

Energize yourself with positive altitude towards your goals. Don’t wait for anybody to encourage you. Take every step you make as positive as possible.

Where there are challenges, use them to better your next move. Do not fear to fail because it’s through the mistake we make that we become perfect.

Last but not least, you are a winner and winners never quit.

Good luck through your success journey. Let’s encourage each other as no man is an island. We need each other on this journey. We can do it by connecting as we leave a comment.

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My Life in the village(pt3)..Ciscas

To catch up with the story, see the previous part.

It was during one of the school holidays. My mother had put a tight schedule to make sure we were always busy as always. All Tuesdays were spared for a duty of fetching firewood from a neighbouring forest. It was not an obvious thing because the forest was guarded and so we had to play our cards well to make sure that we were not caught. To us, this was not a difficult task as we always knew how to manoeuvre our way.

On that day, I woke up early. Alerted other girls from the neighbourhood and finally we had made a group of eight girls. We knew going to the forest alone could be risky and that is why we made sure we formed a strong group. Equipped with all what we needed such like pangas, axes and ropes, there we went to pursue our mission.

Don’t dare to make a move, if you try to act weirdly, you might go back to your mother in a different form!

A scaring voice from one of the guards thundered

We were all scared to death as we did not know our fate. They tied our hands with our own ropes and frogmarched us to an open field inside the forest before taking us to their station where they locked us in a shanty room. For all this time, we hadn’t noticed that Florah, one of the girls, was not with us! Where could she be? Did she manage to escape or something bad has happened to her? Everyone of us was worried. We knew the forest was not the best place to be and especially late in the evening due to some wild animals which used to take the advantage of the dark to harass the village.

It was now getting late, yet we had no idea what was in store for us. We could here the guards conversing outside but we comprehended nothing at all as they were from a different community. No one understood their language. We tried to scream to attract their attention, but the effort bore no fruits. One of them could understand some words from our language but what he did was just to scold us commanding us to keep quiet.

Finally, it was dark. There was no need to continue pleading for our freedom. After all, being in that room was safer than walking aimlessly in the forest which could be more dangerous for us. What about our parents? They must have been worried waiting for us to return home with no avail!

We tried to get some sleep but the place was too cold for most of us apart from Daisy. Neither the noise that we made nor the cold in the room could deter her visit to the slumber land.

The night was so long that we all wished for the sunrise. Everything seemed quiet apart from scaring sounds of wild animals which could be heard from time to time. Some of as couldn’t bear it any logger. They tried to build some warmth by crowding together. This helped them to get some sleep, but it wasn’t the case with Judith and I. No matter how much we tried to close our eyes, no urge of sleep dared to give us a courtesy call. We were forced to endure with the situation knowing that we had no way out!

Before we could see the morning sun rays, our worrying peace was interrupted by noise and commotion from outside. We hurriedly tried to alert those of us who were sleeping. Everybody was awake when we heard the deafening shout from a man whom we couldn’t recognise his voice!…..what next?….don’t miss the next part…let’s go this journey together….below this story, I request that you follow me….kindly share your opinion as you comment...let’s meet next time and know what happened.

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Teenagers’ relationships: when and how to talk about it – Ciscasquapro

Romantic relationships are a major developmental milestone. They come with all the other changes going on during adolescence – physical, social and emotional. And they’re linked to your child’s growing interest in body image and looks, independence and privacy. The idea that your child might have these kinds of feelings can sometimes be a bit confronting for you. But these feelings are leading your child towards a deeper capacity to care, share and develop intimate relationships.

When teenage relationships start

There isn’t a ‘right age’ to start having relationships – every child is different, and every family will feel differently about this issue. But here are some averages:

  • From 9-11 years, your child might start to show more independence from your family and more interest in friends.
  • From 10-14 years, your child might want to spend more time in mixed gender groups, which might eventually end up in a romantic relationship.
  • From 15-19 years, romantic relationships can become central to social life. Friendships might become deeper and more stable.

Many teenagers spend a lot of time thinking and talking about being in a relationship. In these years, teenage relationships might last only a few weeks or months. It’s also normal for children to have no interest in romantic relationships until their late teens. Some choose to focus on schoolwork, sport or other interests.

Early teenage relationships

Younger teenagers usually hang out together in groups. If the person your child is interested in is older or younger, it could be worth mentioning that people of different ages might want different things from relationships.The most influential role models for teenagers are the grown-ups . Just talking about both men and women respectfully lets your child know you think everyone is equal and valuable.

Talking about teenage relationships with your child

Your family plays a big part in the way your child thinks about teenage relationships.

When you encourage conversations about feelings, friendships and family relationships, it can help your child feel confident to talk about teenage relationships in general. If your child knows what respectful relationships look like in general, she can relate this directly to romantic relationships.

These conversations might mean that your child will feel more comfortable sharing his feelings with you as he starts to get romantically interested in others. And the conversations can also bring up other important topics, like treating other people kindly, breaking up kindly and respecting other people’s boundaries.

Having conversations with your child about sex and relationships from a young age might mean your child feels more comfortable to ask you questions as she moves into adolescence.

In some ways, talking about romantic and/or sexual teenage relationships is like talking about friendships or going to a party. Depending on your values and family rules, you and your child might need to discuss behaviour and ground rules, and consequences for breaking the rules. For example, you might talk about how much time your child spends with his girlfriend or boyfriend versus how much time he spends studying, or whether it’s OK for his girlfriend or boyfriend to stay over.

You might also want to agree on some strategies for what your child should do if she feels unsafe or threatened.

Young people might also talk to their friends, which is healthy and normal. They still need your back-up, though, so keeping the lines of communication open is important.

Sex and teenage relationships

If your child is in a relationship, it can bring up questions about sex and intimacy.

Not all teenage relationships include sex, but most teenagers will experiment with sexual behaviour at some stage. This is why your child need information on sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

This could also be your chance to talk together about dealing with unwanted sexual and peer pressure. If you keep the lines of communication open and let your child know that you’re there to listen, he’ll be more likely to come to you with questions and concerns.

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Season greetings – Ciscasquapro

Hey! The year is still young and I feel I need to welcome you once again to my site-Ciscasquapro! It is my pleasure and honour to introduce you the fabulous products offered on this page. All your questions ranging from life of a teenager,youth and lifestyle, update on fashion,guidelines to parents on how to bring up children going through adolescence challenges, gaining more knowledge on our education page and many more will be answered. What you need is just to hook up with us! Enjoy your time here at Ciscasquapro!

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Best tips on disciplining your child

Should we discipline?

All children misbehave sometimes. As a parent, you have to decide how you will respond. Your child needs rules to understand how to behave.

Discipline involves both punishment and rewards. When you discipline your children, you are teaching them what is good behavior and what is not good behavior. Discipline is important to:

  • Protect children from harm
  • Teach self-discipline
  • Develop good social skills

Parent

Every parent has their own parenting style. You may be strict or you may be laid back. The key is to:

  • Set clear expectations
  • Be consistent
  • Be loving

TIPS FOR EFFECTIVE DISCIPLINE

Try these parenting pointers:

Reward good behavior. As much as you can, try to focus on the positive. Let your children know that you are pleased when they are behaving the way you wish. By showing your approval, you encourage good behavior and help build self-esteem.

Let natural consequences teach your child. While it is not easy, you should not always prevent bad things from happening. If your child is frustrated with a toy and breaks it, let him learn that he no longer has that toy to play with.

Consider your child’s age when setting limits or punishing. DO NOT expect more from your child than your child can do. For example, a toddler cannot control the impulse to touch things. Instead of trying to tell her not to touch, put fragile objects out of reach.

Be clear. Let your child know ahead of time what you will be doing for discipline. DO NOT make it up in the heat of the moment. Tell your child what behavior needs to change and what you will do if it does not.

Tell your child exactly what you expect from him. Rather than saying, “Your room is messy,” tell the child what needs to be picked up or cleaned. For example, tell your child to put the toys away and make the bed. Explain what the punishment will be if he does not take care of his room.

DO NOT argue. Once you have set expectations, do not get dragged into an argument about what’s fair. DO NOT keep defending yourself once you have stated what you want. Remind your child about the rules you have set and leave it at that.

Be consistent. DO NOT change rules or punishments at random. If more than one adult is disciplining the child, work together. It is confusing to your child when one caregiver accepts certain behaviors but the other caregiver punishes for the same behavior. Your child may learn to play one adult against the other.

Show respect. Treat your child with respect. By respecting your child, you build trust. Behave the way you want your child to behave.

Follow through on your discipline. If you tell your child that she will lose her TV time today if she hits, be prepared to turn off the TV for the day.

DO NOT make huge threats of punishment that you will never do. When you threaten a punishment but do not follow through, your child learns that you do not mean what you say.

Instead, pick punishments that you can and are willing to do. For example, if your kids are fighting, say: “The fighting must stop now, if you do not stop, we will not go to the movies.” If your kids do not stop fighting, DO NOT go to the movies. Your kids will learn that you mean what you say.

Be calm, friendly, and firm. A child may become angry, tearful, or sad, or may start a tantrum. The calmer your behavior is, the more likely your children will pattern their behavior after yours. If you spank or hit, you are showing them that it is acceptable to solve problems with violence.

Look for patterns. Does your child always get upset and act out over the same thing or in the same situation? If you understand what triggers your child’s behavior, you may be able to prevent or avoid it.

Know when to apologize. Remember that being a parent is a hard job. Sometimes you will get out of control and not behave well. When this happens, apologize to your child. Let him know that you will respond differently the next time.

Help your child with tantrums. Allow your children to express their feelings, but at the same time, help them cope with anger and frustration without violent or aggressive behavior. Here are some tips on dealing with temper tantrums:

  • When you see your child starting to get worked-up, distract her attention with a new activity.
  • If distraction does not work, ignore your child. Every time you react to a tantrum, you reward the negative behavior with extra attention. Scolding, punishing, or even trying to reason with the child may cause your child to act up more.
  • If you are in public, remove the child without discussion or fuss. Wait until the child calms down before resuming your activities.
  • If the tantrum involves hitting, biting, or other harmful behavior, DO NOT ignore it. Tell the child that the behavior will not be tolerated. Move the child away for a few minutes.
  • Remember, children cannot understand lots of explanations. DO NOT attempt to reason. Give the punishment right away. If you wait, the child will not connect the punishment with the behavior.
  • DO NOT give into your rules during a tantrum. If you give in, your child has learned that tantrums work.

What you need to know about spanking. Experts have found that spanking:

  • Can make children more aggressive.
  • Can get out of control and the child can get hurt.
  • Teaches children that it is OK to hurt someone they love.
  • Teaches children to be afraid of their parent.
  • Teaches children to avoid being caught, rather than learning better behavior.
  • May reinforce bad behavior in children acting out just to get attention. Even negative attention is better than no attention.

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Dangerous charlie charlie internet game affects school going children

Have you heard of the charlie charlie game which is blowing off the minds of the school going children? It is believed that it connects the player with the spirit of the dead through a ‘supernatural being.’ It is affecting the child mentally and emotionally.

The game involves the use of two pencils or pens. The player mention some words calling the name charlie and respond yes or no. So to parents, this is not just a game to have fun. Watch out!

Others were blue whale and the momo challenge which caused the death of some children.

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What will happen to your child if you do this when parenting

Many a time we get ourselves in the midst of the rock and a hard place as we raise our children. We tend to ask ourselves, are we really doing it right? Am I a good parent to my child? Sometimes it becomes hard to answer such questions.

Every parent out there wishes the best for their children, but this doesn’t always happen. As you do your part of parenting, remember to lay your trust onto God. The promise given to you for your children will surely clear your doubt in parenting.

…I will pour out my spirit on your children and my blessings on your descendants. They will thrive like well watered grass, like willows by stream of running water.

Isaiah 44: 3,4

With the above verse, be assured that all shall be well. Claim it today!

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Is your child stressed? Check these signs.

Children also get stressed

The challenges that have come with the corona virus are not only being experienced by adult but children are not spared too. Children have been suffering silently without parents’ knowledge.

Childhood stress can be present in any setting that requires the child to adapt or change. Stress may be caused by positive changes, such as starting a new activity, but it is most commonly linked with negative changes such as illness or death in the family.

You can help your child by learning to recognize the signs of stress and teaching your child healthy ways to deal with it.

Stress may be a response to a negative change in a child’s life. In small amounts, stress can be good. But, excessive stress can affect the way a child thinks, acts, and feels.

Children learn how to respond to stress as they grow and develop. Many stressful events that an adult can manage will cause stress in a child. As a result, even small changes can impact a child’s feelings of safety and security.

Pain, injury, illness, and other changes are stressors for children. Stressors may include:

  • Worrying about schoolwork or grades
  • Juggling responsibilities, such as school and work or sports
  • Problems with friends, bullying, or peer group pressures
  • Changing schools, moving, or dealing with housing problems or homelessness
  • Having negative thoughts about themselves
  • Going through body changes, in both boys and girls
  • Seeing parents go through a divorce or separation
  • Money problems in the family
  • Living in an unsafe home or neighborhood

SIGNS OF UNRESOLVED STRESS IN CHILDREN

Children may not recognize that they are stressed. New or worsening symptoms may lead parents to suspect an increased stress level is present.

Physical symptoms can include:

  • Decreased appetite, other changes in eating habits
  • Headache
  • New or recurrent bedwetting
  • Nightmares
  • Sleep disturbances
  • Upset stomach or vague stomach pain
  • Other physical symptoms with no physical illness

Emotional or behavioral symptoms may include:

  • Anxiety, worry
  • Not able to relax
  • New or recurring fears (fear of the dark, fear of being alone, fear of strangers)
  • Clinging, unwilling to let you out of sight
  • Anger, crying, whining
  • Not able to control emotions
  • Aggressive or stubborn behavior
  • Going back to behaviors present at a younger age
  • Doesn’t want to participate in family or school activities

HOW PARENTS CAN HELP

Parents can help children respond to stress in healthy ways. Following are some tips:

  • Provide a safe, secure, and dependable home.
  • Family routines can be comforting. Having a family dinner or movie night can help relieve or prevent stress.
  • Be a role model. The child looks to you as a model for healthy behavior. Do your best to keep your own stress under control and manage it in healthy ways.
  • Be careful about which television programs, books, and games that young children watch, read, and play. News broadcasts and violent shows or games can produce fears and anxiety.
  • Keep your child informed of anticipated changes such as in jobs or moving.
  • Spend calm, relaxed time with your children.
  • Learn to listen. Listen to your child without being critical or trying to solve the problem right away. Instead work with your child to help them understand and solve what is upsetting to them.
  • Build your child’s feelings of self-worth. Use encouragement and affection. Use rewards,to involve your child in activities where they can succeed.
  • Allow the child opportunities to make choices and have some control in their life. The more your child feels they have control over a situation, the better their response to stress will be.
  • Encourage physical activity.
  • Recognize signs of unresolved stress in your child.
  • Seek help or advice from a health care provider, counselor, or therapist when signs of stress do not decrease or disappear.

WHEN TO CALL THE DOCTOR

Talk to your child’s provider if your child:

  • Is becoming withdrawn, more unhappy, or depressed
  • Is having problems in school or interacting with friends or family
  • Is unable to control their behavior or anger

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Dangerous internet game affects school going children

Have you heard of the charlie charlie game which is blowing off the minds of the school going children? It is believed that it connects the player with the spirit of the dead through a ‘supernatural being.’ It is affecting the child mentally and emotionally.

The game involves the use of two pencils or pens. The player mention some words calling the name charlie and respond yes or no. So to parents, this is not just a game to have fun. Watch out!

Others were blue whale and the momo challenge which caused the death of some children.

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Signs of mental illness in children

It’s important to recognize and treat mental illnesses in children early on. Once mental illness develops, it becomes a regular part of your child’s behavior. This makes it more difficult to treat.

But it’s not always easy to know when your child has a serious problem. Everyday stresses can cause changes in your child’s behavior. For example, getting a new brother or sister or going to a new school may cause a child to temporarily act out. Warning signs that it might be a more serious problem include

  • Problems in more than one setting (at school, at home, with peers)
  • Changes in appetite or sleep
  • Social withdrawal or fear of things he or she did not used to be not afraid of
  • Returning to behaviors more common in younger children, such as bedwetting
  • Signs of being upset, such as sadness or tearfulness
  • Signs of self-destructive behavior, such as head-banging or suddenly getting hurt often
  • Repeated thoughts of death

To diagnose mental health problems, the doctor or mental health specialist looks at your child’s signs and symptoms, medical history, and family history. Treatments include medicines and talk therapy.

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What happens to Kenya pregnant teenagers as schools reopen

The long holiday of nine months has exposed the school going girls to more dangers. It was notice that there was a rise of teenage pregnancy where high numbers were recorded.

Some have even given birth. The education cabinet secretary recently announced that all children should be allowed to go back to class regardless of their situation. This was after the schools were reopened on 4th January.

This was not a guarantee that these girls would go back to school. Some said that, the were not ready to face the victimization from the age mates.

Some people argue that by allowing the girls back to school, it is like advocating for indiscipline among teenagers and it won’t be a good example to other school going children.

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