Have you ever insulted your child? Has your child suffered from name calling? Have you ever thought how this could cause a great mental harm to your child? Verbal abuse should not be taken lightly. This happens more with mothers than fathers. I believe after reading the article below , you will never do it again! You can as well watch the video below.
Daisy was a grade three child. She was a quiet girl who did her work silently. She wasn’t social and most of the time she spent all alone. Let me say that she wasn’t gifted in class work. She lived with her mother who didn’t understand her at all. Most of the time is when she scolded her calling her names like cow, dog, donkey, foolish and stupid.
There was this one name she liked calling her mostly, “Ng’ombe” meaning cow. Anytime she did something wrong, she would shout at her,” Ng’ombe!”
One day , while at school, they were asked to do a quiz which she got nothing.The teacher was so annoyed as she thought the quiz was easy for everyone in class. So she shouted at her,” Kwa nini unafanya kama ng’ombe? ” meaning, ” Why are you behaving like a cow?”
Daisy walked to her desk feeling devastated. She was afraid of becoming the laughing stock of the class. Having reached where she usually sat, she covered her face using her sweater and cried bitterly.
It was during the creative lesson one afternoon when the teacher issued the learners with plain papers. Then she told them, ” On this paper, draw anything you may think of. Make your picture as attractive as you can.”
Every learner was excited to have the lesson. They enjoyed the creative writing and after some time the teacher collected the papers for analysis.
When she was going through the work, she came across this one paper. On it, a cow with a human head was drawn! To her amazement, the paper belonged to Daisy. Before the class could leave for break, she requested Daisy to be left behind.
” Why did you draw such an animal? I haven’t seen such a creature!” she asked Daisy. Daisy looked at her and started crying. It took a long time before the teacher could convince her to talk. Finally, she was ready to let it out.
” My mother always calls me a cow anytime I do a mistake. I have never known I am one until you asked me why I was behaving like one! When you asked as to draw, I tried to imagine how I looked like in the eyes of my mother and that’s what I came out with.” she narrated.
The teacher was very sorry and remorseful. She apologized to Daisy and after some talk with her, she decided to invite the mother to come to school where they talked at length about the issue. They swallowed their pride by apologizing to Daisy and promised that it wouldn’t happen again.
This was the beginning of a new Daisy! Everything seemed to change beyond expectations. Her performance improved as her self esteem too. She became the peer leader in upper classes and participated in most of the school activities. What a good ending!
From the above we can all see what insults and verbal abuse can do to our children. Let’s all refrain from calling our children names, insulting and scolding unnecessarily. This may cause mental challenges in our children leaving them stressed. As we discipline and make them responsible , it is always good to use kind words. We should avoid damaging their self esteem as this may bring a great harm to their lives.
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